This is a part 2 to the question from Samanath :)
My crush and I are very close and we text everday, we have some secrets but we end up telling each other. He stopped me in the hallway and said " I love you and I mean it!" We just held hands and stared at each other. We trust each other and make sure everything is going alright for the each of us. Does this help for more information about our relationship/friendship? ------------------------- Today’s question comes from Samantha, who writes:
So my crush and I are best friends, and we text everyday. We say " I love you" and hug. I don't know if that means anything. Please help! It's killing me. Today’s question comes from Channelle, who writes:
Last year I moved schools. I had a crush on a guy, and it was really hard leaving him (and everyone else) behind. Toward the end of the year we were actually becoming really good friends, so I feel like it’s my fault that I missed my chance! I really want to get over him since he didn’t even ask me out (a girl has to get on with her life!), but my mind seems to have other ideas. There’s a guy at my new school who seems to like me, but it’s really exasperating to have the old guy in the back of my head. Please help. I’m desperate! |
My Advice pt.2im so glad you replied :) okay, so you guys really do have an emotional connection, which is GREAT! and im glad to say now, that he really might mean it. i mean you guys have been best friends for a while and i know some secrets you dont tell people, so i get that some things he probably doesnt know. there is alot of trust, i can see that. its also a great sign that you both are always wanting to keep the other happy. all of this sounds like the relationship im in now. he means every word he says. i feel like you should cherish this. its hard finding a guy, forget that, its hard finding ANYONE who has such a connection. before i start rambling on and on, let me just answer the main question, yes he means it. i said no the first time because i had nothing to base a 'yes' answer off of, but now, with this information, i can honestly say, he really cares about you, as much as you care about him. enjoy your relationship and every time spent with him, because he means it when he says " I love you". thanks for asking me for advice, and WHENEVER you need advice, im always here :)
-Kaitlynn My AdviceOH, YOUNG "LOVE". i remember back in those days when i had thought i loved someone. okay, so you will go through life and meet a bunch more guys so dont take the "i love you" thing to heart. But really it depends. i dont know how old you are or anything. if you want me to be honest, i dont think it means anything. It also depends on the relationship. how long have you been dating? how good of an emotional connection do you have with this person. How long have you known each other? Have yall kissed? Are there any secrets being kept from each other. I would advise that you send me in your question again, but with some answers to my questions, because right now, my answer stands at: It doesn't mean anything. ( sorry. i would only be honest with you ) ive been through almost everything so i pretty much know how all this stuff goes. but please, if you want maybe a different opinion send me some more information :)
My Answer
I'm just gonna go straight forward with you. you need to forget about that boy from your old school. i mean he is gone and you might not see him again for years. i'm not trying to sound harsh but you got this wonderful guy who likes you and i think you should give him a chance.
but if you really can't get over him maybe you could call one of your old friends and tell them to give you his number. maybe yall could have a long distance relationship. yall could oovoo, or skype and there is always kik. i hope everything works out. if you need anymore advice you know who to email. |
Don't try and be the most popular, try to be the smartest" By Grandma
This question came in anonymously from "Confusing crush Stuck in my head" She writes:
Hi Katie, I really likes this boy but he keeps saying he likes my friend. He always acts like he likes me but always denies it when someone asks. What do I do? |
My Answer
I've had this problem at the beginning of the school year with this boy i know. Everytime someone asks him if he liked me he would say no. His best friend finally told me that he liked me and then i asked him and he finally said yes. here are 4 options u can try:
First option: straight up You go straight up to him when he is alone and ask him. this option might back fire because he might be too scared to admit it and deny it again. Second option: spill da beans if he has a bestfriend or friends ask them if he likes you. they should know. if not ask them to ask him. he should be able to spill da beans to his best friends. I personally, did this option. it worked perfectly, but different strokes for different fokes. Option 4: I LIKE U BOTH! maybe he likes you both. confront him one day when he is by hiself and ask him why he acts like he likes you but actually likes your friend. he might not want to pull u into the "3 is a crowd" thing, where he likes u both but has to choose. most likely, option 4 will help the most... Option 3: FORGET IT! lol i'm just kidding, this option is actually called WAIT AWHILE. he might not want to tell you yet, so give him a chance to get confidence to tell u. if he never does, he might just not be ready for a relationship yet. all people are different, but confessing a crush takes time. peer pressure will make him keep his secret longer. but if u like him, tell him, he might open up. he might even just be afraid of rejection. there are so many possiblities. but when he is ready, he will tell u. i hope this helps you and if u need more advice just email me. |
This question came in anonymously, from “Lovesick Friend,” who writes:
My iPod made a little beep sound when I was teaching my best friend Mylie how to paint with water-colored pencils. It was from my secret crush. Mylie got real mad when I mentioned his name. She took my iPod and threatened to tell everybody. I begged her not to. She said she wouldn’t if I stopped crushing on him because that’s her crush too! She told me to text him an “I’m-Not-Your-Friend-Anymore” message. But I couldn’t do that. It would break his heart. So, now I am looking on Facebook, paranoid that my secret’s going to be the next latest gossip! What do I do? Please help! |
My Answer
Hi Lovesick Friend! I was SO psyched for you when I read about your secret crush messaging you…and then totally bummed to read about what Miley said!
It sounds like she’s dealing with a MAJOR case of crush blindness. That’s when you’re SO into a guy that you lose sight of everything else that’s super important…like friendship! I mean, threatening to expose your secret is pretty low. And then trying to force you to send that lame message…I wouldn’t even do that to MacKenzie, and I like her about as much as I like cleaning my toilet with a toothbrush! Since she IS your best friend, and she’s probably feeling pretty sensitive and insecure right now, I think you should be honest with her, but do it a lot more nicely than she did to you. You could tell her you didn’t know she had a crush on him too before you started being friends with him…but even if you DID know, you have a right to be friends with him, too. You could also remind her that if she really likes him, she wouldn’t want him to be hurt…which he WOULD be if you sent some dramatic “I-can’t-be-your-friend-anymore” text. Then lastly, you can tell her the obvious…that her threatening you and making demands hurts YOU, and best friends just don’t do that to each other! It might be kind of hard for her to really see your point here (that whole crush blindness thing!) But hopefully, when she has time to think about it, she’ll realize your friendship is more important than any crush. |
This question comes from Chloe, who writes:
At school my friends are nice, but at birthday parties they gossip about me and ignore me. Then when I am alone with them, they’re nice again. It’s so aggravating. Please give me advice!! |
My Answer
Hi Chloe! Let me start this advice column with an open letter to your “friends”:
Dear Chloe’s “friends,” It seems that maybe you guys were absent on the day they covered friendship in school, so it’s time someone tells you what’s what! Looking out for your friend + valuing her + being nice to her ALL the time = super awesome friendship! Gossiping about your friend + ignoring her + being nice to her ONLY when other people aren’t around = super mean and not cool, AND grounds for suspension from friendship!! Please study this guide carefully, as there will be a quiz at the next party, and there will be NO make up test!!! Sincerely, A Dork That’s Learned A LOT About Being a Good Friend OK, now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, a little advice for you, Chloe! I know this is going to sound hard to do, because…well, it is! But you have to let your friends know that YOU get how friendship works, they’re not treating you right, and things have to change. Then you have to be the one giving this party-quiz. After you tell them that it’s not cool to talk about you behind your back, keep an eye out to see if they change (which means they value your friendship) or if they keep doing the same mean thing (which means they have no idea what an awesome friendship they’re ruining!) If they don’t pass this party-quiz, then it’s time for that suspension. The good news is that it’s a big school, and there are TONS of other people who paid attention during the friend lesson. More importantly, those girls will think you’re SO awesome that they’d never consider gossiping about you. They’ll be too busy laughing WITH you to laugh AT you with someone else! It may take a bit to find those girls, but trust me…you will! I just know there’s a Zoey and Nikki pair out there just dying to find their Chloe. |
we finally got a new question!!!!!!!!! if u have a question email me. anyway keep reading...
This question comes from Heather, who writes: I don’t know why my BFF HATES my personality! Please help! She also said she hates my laugh, so I said, “Everyone has a different laugh. It’s who I am!” Please help me! |
My Answer
Hi Heather! Let me just start by saying WHOA! I mean, seriously, whoa!
“BFF” and “hates my personality” can’t go in the same sentence. That’s like saying, “My favorite pants keep eating my leg flesh!” or “My favorite music makes my ears bleed! It’s just ALL kinds of confusing and wrong! If she were REALLY your best friend, she’d not only LIKE your personality…she’d LOVE it! And she definitely wouldn’t say stuff that makes you feel bad about yourself. That’s what makes a best friend, well, the best: they think you’re awesome, they’re SUPER nice to you, and they would NEVER make fun of you or put you down.People who do that go into the “not so good friend” category…and sometimes even the “absolute worst” friend one.Has she always been like this? Or has she suddenly become nasty out of nowhere? If it’s the first one, then I seriously suggest telling her straight up, “If you’re really my friend, you’ll accept me and like me just the way I am.” And if she says something mean, like, “I HATE the way you whine when you’re mad!” then you can say, “See, case in point…that’s mean and not cool, so I’m out!”(And by “out” I mean you stop hanging out with her so much, since she’s not acting like a good friend to you…if it’s option number one, that is…) If it’s the second option…that she’s started being a lot nastier lately…I’d sit her down and see what’s going on with her.I’m not saying there’s any good excuse for being super mean, but maybe she’s upset about something but doesn’t know how to tell you, so instead she’s been acting rude. Or maybe she’s having a hard time at home, or she’s stressed about something, and because you guys are so close, she’s taking it out on you.You could say, “It’s not like you to say this kind of hurtful stuff. Is something else wrong that you want to talk about?” If she doesn’t admit that she’s been mean and apologize, then you might want to stop giving her best-friend-type time and attention, because she DEFINITELY doesn’t deserve it! |
what's up yall. we have another question. this time it's from Allison.
Allison asks: My friend and i have been friends since first grade but since we got in a fight in winter shes been spreading rumors about me and telling lies help me Allison- |
My Answer
it seems as if your friend thinks you hate her or something. i just got out of a fight with my best friend last month and now we are the best of friends again so here is what you have to do.
try and call her or leave a message that says how you feel. don't act fake. just tell her everything you feel. if you are mad that she is telling rumors about you tell her that and tell her that you are sooooo sorry that yall got into a fight. tell her she is your friend and you didn't mean to make her mad. Next you can make a card or something that will say that you still want to be friends. if all that fails, let her cool down alittle and then try to get her to stop and be your friend again. i hope this helps because i bet that friend is really close to you and you REALLY want them to be your friend again. just like i did. |
hey there, today we have a question from JUBILEE. her question is :
I'm going to a new school soon. I want to be friends with other people instead of being a loner. How do I introduce myself? How do make them like me for me? |
MY Answer
That's a lot. I'll be going through it too after i graduate at the end of the year. well one way to introduce yourself is that you can first find someone that looks like You, like they have similar thing that is like you. or join a club. for me, i like to draw so i would introduce myself to people in an art or crafts club. find what you like and join that club. if they don't have one than walk up to someone that looks new too or shy and say Hi. make up some kind of thing to say. i might say: Hi, could you tell me where the bathroom is. or Hi, where is room 200 or something. then ask the person to show u the way. and it is easy for them to like you for you. just act normal be yourself because if you act fake yo have to stay like that for your whole time at that school. well i hope this helps jubilee. :)
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Ok hey we finally have another question! today our question is from Thatz KitKat. her question is "what is your opinion on relationships"
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My Answer
well to ME relationships are a little risky but it depends. if you find the right guy you can have a wonderful time like i did with my ex. but one thing is for sure.... all relationships aren't perfect. it took me about a year to figure that out last year when i went with my exx- and exxx- i figured out a lot. for example relationships are all about what u fall for and what u don't. like one of them was using me for goodies like candy and chips and the other lied to me and cheated on me. (will never forget it)
but when u find the right person stick with them until you can't no more. well that's my advice and merry Christmas |
This question comes from Dmya from Detroit she said, i like this boy but I don't know if I should like him because Some one else been waiting a long time and there both good guys....
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My answerIt depends. there is 2 options...
Option 1 if you seriously don't like the boy who's liked you basically forever. tell him that you guys are just friends or just tell him straight up..."I DON'T LIKE YOU OK" then spend time with the guy you like but don't go over board. still be nice to the guy who likes you but don't give him the wrong message. Option 2 skip that boy you like. he might not even like you. ask him. that's the only way your going to find out. if he says no. give the guy who likes you a chance. |
Here's our second question from Jubilee! Jubilee said " i have a crush... how do i approach.
This gives me an idea to make a relationship page and a fashion page. |
My answer!There are several ways to handle this situation because i have gone through this several times. One way is the easy but hard way. you first go up to him and say hi and make a conversation. then just hang out and be yourself. sometimes i just be my self even if i don't like the person and somehow they get a crush on me. thats how i got my boyfriend who is the bomb. another way is the keep eye contact. i make eye contact with everyone i talk to. my new teacher ms. Phipps is a little mean so i have to TRY my best to get eye contact with her. well there are so many other ways. but to keep this short just got to wikihow.com and they have so many good ideas. go to youth then relationships or crushes on boys. hope this helps Jubilee.
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OMG!!!! we have our first question by mya. mya asked " i don't know if my friend called me fake, should i check her or forget about it???
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i say you should check her. how will you know if she your real friend? just go up to her or ask her do you think i'm fake and if she say yes take a DEEP breathe and ask why. maybe you can fix yourself. sooner or later you will change (hopefully) and just forget about it. so there hope you like the advice.
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